Waiting

Have you ever waited your whole live for something? You knew you were destined to do something big and wondered, when is my big break going to come? Have you ever looked at those passionate people who were really doing what they love, and wondered what you were doing wrong?

I did. For a long time I felt like I was wondering through a vast waste land waiting for my purpose and to do something with my life that meant something. I’m still waiting. I used to hate waiting, but now I’m used to it. Besides things are getting interesting now.

I’ve hit the jackpot! I met a man ( in the pics!) and he is so wonderful. He and I have talked a lot about relationships and the joys and disappointments. The key is not to look for what you want, but to make sure the person doesn’t have any thing you don’t want. Then all the good traits are a bonus! At first I didn’t want to date him because I didn’t know if he had any of the traits I didn’t want. I wasn’t going to repeat my mistake of finding someone that knew how to “charm” me, decide that I like him, and then find out he had been hiding his true self. I had learned to look for certain qualities that would give away how they really are inside. For example, he may have a history of long term relationships, but isn’t sure why the girls leave him. Not being able to understand why isn’t a good sign, and while ability to commit to a long term relationship sounds good on the surface it is useless if it never leads to anywhere, especially if you want to get married. (This is why the girls leftthat other guy!) This is what is known as being strung along. It is also true about how they treat other people…if they are only nice to you and not others watch out!

Another key, is to never give up or compromise on what you want. Of course, check and make sure the qualities you want don’t conflict. For example, don’t marry a pilot or doctor and then be mad when he isn’t home enough or gets called out. Or don’t expect a person who prefers routine to become spontaneous. Other than that if you’ve discovered you like something stick with it.

And lastly, pray! Pray everyday that you don’t make the mistake of choosing the wrong one and that if you are with the wrong one that God will end it. I found something to be true, I didn’t believe it before, but it is true that when you meet the right one “you just know.” You know just like you know your mother is your mother and a friend is your friend. There isn’t any doubt, confusion or uncertainty. All of that emotional stress just isn’t there. You aren’t having a championship tug-a-war match warring inside your head all day. What a relief!

One down and one to go…I’ve got my own family now; the only thing I’m waiting for is what to do for my occupation. I’ve got some ideas for my own business, but I’ve learned to wait because it is far more miserable to be involved in something that isn’t God’s best that to just endure the uncomfortable waiting period.